"How to Write a Eulogy," by Roberta Temes, Ph.D.

feeds@yuku.com (David Pierce) — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 16:46:44 GMT

Here is an interesting article by the author of a book on grieving that I will soon be reviewing here, at the FAR message board. The author's publicist gave me permission to publish the article. I hope some of you may find it useful, should you ever need to write a eulogy. -Dave

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How to Write a EulogyClaudio's idea of "amputated parents," who, losing their children, feel as if an arm or limb has been cut from...

For parents that have lost children

feeds@yuku.com (louise) — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 18:54:11 GMT

Hi,
My name is Louise
and i lost my beautiful 23 year old daughter March 06
I would like invite you to My Child Loss Grief (MCLG). We are an active online
community of
compassionate, understanding and supportive bereaved parents, walking
this journey together
as we survive the loss of our children.

MCLG offers many tools on our website and moderated forum. The forum is
of no cost,
however it is private so that we may offer members a safe...

Book Review: "Buddy's Candle" by Bernie S. Siegel

feeds@yuku.com (David Pierce) — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 19:25:57 GMT

Buddy's Candle, By Dr. Bernie S. Siegel
Reviewed by David Pierce

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Thanks

feeds@yuku.com (Willem) — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 23:17:14 GMT

Hi David
I just wanted to thank you for our discussion last week in the chatroom.
through strange coincidence I realized your new chatroom was open at a scheduled time when I was awake and doing some emails very early in the morning.
I found it stimulating to talk to you again. also read your written account of the job on this page.
things seem to go in the positive direction so far and if needed I get you the good news.
thanks again
the chattimes (5 am) are not...

Memorial Markers NOT distractions but loving tributes!

feeds@yuku.com (David Pierce) — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 18:21:07 GMT

In a "Dear Abby" newspaper column of 9-16-08, readers wrote in to take issue with Abby's pronouncement that roadside memorial markers are a gesture of respect to those killed alongside roads and highways. One person replied:

"We need to celebrate life, not death. By creating roadside memorials, we solidify the place of death, not the life the individual had. Why have visual reminders on the road...of the worst day...

Test

feeds@yuku.com (Shauna Bocksch) — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 15:46:17 GMT

Shauna and Dave testing this account, hi!

Lost my job and gained the world

feeds@yuku.com (David Pierce) — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 13:45:56 GMT

1. How I Lost My Job

Losing ones job, while a tiny matter in comparison to the death of a loved one, can still be a cause of grief. This sort of grief is generally different from that occasioned by death, but it is still painful.

I know.

I just lost my job.

For 3.5 months I have been working as office manager of a moving company in Silverthorne, Colorado. I had high hopes for this job, because previously I had been trapped in Alamosa,...

need to connect

feeds@yuku.com (ellespring) — Mon, 14 Jan 2008 12:29:29 GMT

Hi, Starting about 10 years ago most of my family members died - dad, grandma's, aunts, uncles and mom last. I took care of many of them - hospital visits, shopping, you know... and also was executor so had to pull the plug on 3 of them. 3 of my old best friends (the only one's I was currently continuously connected with) died too - suicide and AIDS. I'm sounding glib, but my problem now is not so much present grief, but the disconnection from my past. Well, not really - the grief...

Indian restaurant is also a cemetery

feeds@yuku.com (David Pierce) — Thu, 13 Dec 2007 23:16:51 GMT

MSNBC gives us this story about a restaurant in India that has graves between the tables, which are considered to be good luck. The article appears in the "Peculiar Postings" section of the news, which displays ignorance on the part of the MSNBC staff about death, grief, and life. The patrons in the restaurant, and in India, find nothing strange about dining among graves,...

"Lady in the Water": Essential film!

feeds@yuku.com (David Pierce) — Fri, 09 Nov 2007 21:51:15 GMT

Hollywood - in the tradition of classic mythopoeia - tends to use bereaved parents and spouses in pivotal roles. They are often examples of those who've been through life's worst extremes, and play lunatics, killers, shamans, and heroes. Because they have been eaten raw by the universe and regurgitated into something new, unpredictable, and powerful, the severely bereaved are regarded in classic high literature with more than pity, with a mixture of fear and awe. This attitude is rendered...

"Bridge to Terabithia"

feeds@yuku.com (David Pierce) — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 21:25:44 GMT

This film is recommended for those in grief who are looking for bridges to their lost loved ones. Young children, and people who are newly bereaved, should probably not see it as there is an intensely sad part that may be too upsetting for them. "Bridge to Terrabithia" is by turns realistic and gritty, earthy, magical and dreamy, frightening, sad, and hopeful. The friendship between the two children, Jess and Leslie, is very much like that of myself and my daughter, Lilli, who died...

FAR and the Law of Magnetic Attraction

feeds@yuku.com (David Pierce) — Tue, 16 Oct 2007 19:12:22 GMT

[The following post is rewritten from an email that earlier I wrote to Giulia.]

Part One: The Secret

For years I have known of the reality behind the idea of positive thinking, because several crucial experiences that occurred while in states of heightened awareness showed me that, literally, we are what we think, and as a collective, we are what each of us...

death/life/rebirth

feeds@yuku.com (majikgypsy) — Sun, 25 Feb 2007 10:20:50 GMT

Yesturday was a hard day for me. I had been dreading it all week. It would have been my dad's 72nd birthday. I lost him 5 years ago. I can't explain why this was so hard, but it was.

Then, in the mist of my grief, my daughter called to give us news of her pregnancy, she didn't realize it was Daddy's birthday.

It did not make everything all better, but it did cause me to scream in joy! But I still miss my dad so much!

I am confused by my feelings, having lost mom a...

"Living When a Loved One has Died"

feeds@yuku.com (David Pierce) — Wed, 24 Jan 2007 22:20:11 GMT

Packing away the last of our books tonight in order to prepare for our move back to Colorado in May, I came across a book by Earl A. Grollman called, "Living When a Loved One has Died." Apparently, Ipicked it up during our Looking for Lilli Tour, when we were in Rapid City South Dakota, at a used book store. It is magnificent.

Far from being a manual about coping with death, it is a book of simple poems directly from this man's heart. In this little volume he expresses...

people think I should be over it

feeds@yuku.com (majikgypsy) — Wed, 17 Jan 2007 06:04:19 GMT

Dear friends and family,
I am drawn to tell you that my physicatrist and physcologist feel I should be over my mom's death. How can I just forget it? I don't understand how these "men of power" can not understand that she was my baby as well as my mom!

Summerland

feeds@yuku.com (majikgypsy) — Fri, 12 Jan 2007 06:40:26 GMT

I wanted to write about the services we gave my mom in October 2005.

First, my mom is a Christian, so here main burial was Christian, but VERY controlled. Second, she knew I am Wiccan and insisted I give her a Summerland Ritual, which was later.

Her service consisted of her favorite songs (3). One my normally off key daughter sang and she sang it to my mom and did some "blues" in it that I've never heard the BEST singers do! My daughter also read an obituary that we...

Death, Grief, and Life